Today I’m sweltering in hot, hot weather, which is quite ironic, because last week was cold. Bitterly cold and wet.

24th November 2009

Hopefully now, although we should have our regular 4 pm thunderstorms, we will enjoy some summer weather for the next few months. It’s particularly difficult for me with the weather being so changeable, because I’ve packed and moved all my stuff out of the Guest House and am commuting between here and my daughters. Maybe commuting is not the right word as I refuse to travel in rush hour, so I do 24 hours here and 24 hours there!!!! This can mean that the summer clothes I’m wearing are to cool or the warmer ones I put on because of the forecast, that are now are too hot!!!

 

Such is life!!

 

Well, it has been very hectic since I last managed to squeeze in a few words on WLS. First of all I was in Cape Town teaching for the weekend, and thoroughly enjoying a Monday stroll along the coast and harbours.

The wind was blowing, but the air was wonderful, fresh and invigorating; stopping for a delicious fresh fish supper at the end of the walk while watching the fishing boats come into harbour, was a wonderful treat.

 

I got back later on Tuesday than I had planned as my original flight was cancelled, but it still gave me plenty of time to finish packing all my things in anticipation of the removal people arriving first thing on Wednesday morning, which they did. I don’t remember much about Wednesday, except for the packers going to work on my glasses, china, and other oddments. They also wrapped the rather special bits of furniture that my father had left me.

 

However, in the midst of all this, I got a phone call to say that Tao was being sick. I’d carefully kept him away from the house while the packers were at work as I know how distressing it is for animals to see things being loaded up and disappearing. I rushed him to the vet, and the long and the short of it was that he needed to be put to sleep. Tao died in my arms at 3:30 on the 18th December 2009. He’s been with me through thick and thin for 11 years, almost to the day, and I feel quite lost without his constant presence in my life. It’s hard to walk through a door and not be greeted by him; to lie in bed and not feel his presence in the room; to end a meal and not put a little treat in his bowl. All in all, Wednesday marked the end of a long cycle in my life.

 

The next day was spent unloading everything at my daughters, and finding a space for it all and somewhere to store the boxes that I’ll not be opening for the next 4 years or so. The furniture has gone in well, and looks as though it belongs there, so she is very happy with it all. By the end of the day, I was exhausted and couldn’t wait to get to bed and sleep, and the following days were equally busy as I was teaching again, though in Johannesburg this time, over the weekend.

 

For the next few weeks, I’ll commute between the Guest House and my daughter’s until we close for Christmas on 16th December. Between now and then, we have a party this weekend for old friends, the auction on 9th December and the staff party on 14th. It’s strange being back here as I am today, with the house now barely furnished with other pieces, not sleeping in my own room, and most of all no Tao faithfully shadowing me as I move around the property. The place is looking magnificent, but I’m impatient now to close this time and be on my way.

 

 

 

I was thinking of all of you in cold climates this morning and wanted to share these photo’s with you that I took on Sunday afternoon just before the mother and father of all storms!!

I hope you enjoy them and that they brighten your day!

And then, here is one more from my recent trip to Italy ….. a cold but beautiful sunny day in mid October …..

Yesterday I joined about 99 other people as the audience for a TV chat / panel Show. The reason I went was because a friend of mine was forming part of the panel for one of the shows (they film 2 in the same evening). I certainly was not there to form part of the filmed audience, so sat right at the back, out of camera lighting, with some of my friends. Clapping and laughing at the jokes is ok, I just didn’t want to be filmed. The topics were “Infidelity in marriages and relationships” and “Victim or Victor thinking”.

Both potentially good conversations when people feel safe enough to get beneath the clichés and to really think. They had on the panel for the first one, A leading female TV presenter from our own “Idols”, whose husband had cheated on her; the features editor of FHM (a leading men’s magazine in SA); and the stunningly beautiful owner of a strip club (with 2 of her girls in the audience). Hot stuff …. yes, but all too safely played as Gigi, yes that was her name, played up the innocence, , and the TV presenter was hurt. The features editor was the most deep thinking, and rescued the show. I forgot to mention our host, a DJ from one of the radio stations. Good looking, and with the gift of the gab, but lacked that something that encourages something more from his guests.

The second show on Victim or Victor thinking is very appropriate to SA. Here, they had again shown some originality with the choice of guests, with a leading actor, an ex-SA Beauty Queen, and a motivational speaker. The ex-Beauty Queen was dynamic, not just for her looks or her thoughts, but for what she is actually doing. She was the only one who had originally phrased thoughts, and who was inspiring not by what she said as much as by what she has done.

The whole experience got me thinking about what makes a good show, or for that matter a good conversation, and I’m sure they will do something good in the cutting room with what occurred. However in real life, we don’t get a cutting room and conversation is increasingly a dying art. So here’s my first thoughts about this in no particular order:

• Passion for what is being discussed
• Humour that is clever and not gross
• Clever use of words to get me thinking … Happy’s Blog is one of the classics for me in this (I hope you don’t mind me mentioning you?)
• A point of view that differs from the norm – being original in thinking
• judgement-free dialogue (judgements kill the conversation since they beg an argument or acquiescence – they’re like yes/no questions).
• personal stories
• talking from the heart, – when the speaker preaches, my ears close – I’ve come to hear you, not Wayne Dyer!!
• speaking from an ‘I’ perspective not “we” – owning what is said – it’s amazing how this changes what I’m able to say when I put myself in the picture and don’t just aim it at “you”.
• Respect for one another’s ideas ….. maybe this should be first …
• the ability to listen to what other’s say
• questions …. not assuming all the answers … it’s is interesting to note that the more exciting the conversation is, the more questions are raised. If the conversation stays in the safe harbour of what (we) I think, my mind is not switched on ….
• Leaving ego at the door … it’s about the conversation not how good/clever/profound I look saying what I’m saying ……

I wonder what you would add to the list …. and I wonder if I should change the name of my blog from Tricia’s Thoughts (much as I love the alliteration) to Tricia’s conversation ….. I’d much rather be having a conversation ……

What a day!! I’ve spent the whole day sorting through all my music and copying it onto my laptop and IPod so that I won’t have heavy CD’s to cart with me and still have everything I love with me. I’ve not finished yet, but I’ve 951 albums recorded so far!!! There’s at least another 100 to go!!

It’s not just copying them … it is also that I’m taking the time to sort them as well and having such fun meeting old faithfuls that I’ve not heard for some years.  Nostalgia!! It’s hard to beat.

When I get this finished, I need to sort all my pictures ……

What a week!!!

Tanya went into hospital yesterday and they operated to do a bone graft on her so badly, sadly mangled and broken bones in her leg. The operation went well so she is home now and starting the whole recuperation process. The leg hurts a bit, but the modern painkillers are superb. She’ll have to keep her leg up for the weekend, but after that she’ll be hobbling around again and the healing process should speed up dramatically.

Zilla, my other daughter will have her knee operated on in December, 7th. This looks to be a simple procedure through a “key hole”!!  She should be out the same day, and then a week later she flies out here for 4 weeks holiday. 4 weeks!!! This is going to be the longest holiday we will all have had. The time is planning out beautifully. We will have a week in Mozambique, 4 nights in a game reserve, another 4 at a popular beach resort (so the grandchildren can be with other youth for New Years Eve) and then down to St Francis and the wonderful restful time by the sea in Tanya and Paul’s house there. Bliss … I can’t wait.

Meanwhile, the movers are moving in on 18th to pack and move all my stuff, and before that I’m off to Cape Town for 5 days to do some teaching.

At the guesthouse, the whole sale process continues, and it looks as though this wonderful place will go to Auction in the first week of December. It’s been a difficult time, because we had an offer, and had to decide if we accepted the offer or took the risk of auction ….. the odds make the auction more attractive right now.

And … they finally managed to put Windows 7 on my laptop. Now I’m having to discover what all the differences are. The machine has speeded up, and that’s the first thing I notice, and it all looks cleaner. I’ll let you know as I find other advantages …..

Take care, all of you and have a good weekend.

Sunday morning …. SUN day morning … sun shining softening the slight crispness of this still spring like morning … all the trees in bloom so that Johannesburg seems to be wearing a wonderful green and purple mantle that picks out all the avenues. Johannesburg is THE most treed city in the world, and at this time of the year it is magnificent with it’s coloured mantle.

I woke gently, and took time to shower and dress, revelling in the beauty around me. Then, with a friend went in search of breakfast …. Zoo Lake beckoned, but when we got there it was crowded with people. Artist’s in the Sun display their work on the 1st Sunday of the month, and there was a large Marquee up which indicated that there was more than this happening. I wasn’t in the mood for crowds, so we drove round the corner to a little Italian coffee shop that makes the best cappuccino’s in SA! They’re closed on Sundays. Un-deterred, we drove around another corner to a new place I’d noticed with a large garden patio area so we could sit outside under the trees and surrounded by birds.

This place turned out to be a delight. A wholly organic place with the lightness of touch of French patisseries!! Free-trade Coffee, a shot of wheatgrass (terribly healthy but rather like munching alongside cows!!), Eggs Benedict, and an oatmeal apple pancake with creme fraiche. A totally decadent breakfast leisurely taken. Catherine who runs Gingko is a lovely hostess/chef/owner. and the experience is definitely one to repeat. By the time we left, Lunch was out on the buffet, and it was a very tempting site with lots of unusual combinations, colours, smells. I’m definitely taking Sally (the chef at High View Gardens) there to sample and be inspired.

Then we cruised the streets of JHB, heading north towards my daughters home. She’d been calling me all week to come and see the changes to her garden. We spent a lovely couple of hours admiring her work, sipping champagne (I’ve forgotten what we were celebrating – probably the changes to the garden) and feasting on a delicious salad my granddaughter made.

From there, back towards home, but a brief side visit to see a friend who is feeling very crook, with a viral infection. We didn’t stay long, but long enough to cheer her up a bit and make her laugh, before heading home, tired … extremely well fed, and with that lovely glow that comes after a day outside with friends, family, laughter and the odd glass of bubbly!!

Now, I’m all set for a busy week again. It’s been ages since I’ve had such a decadent and relaxing day.

I’m off to the hospital this morning to hear what the doctor has to say about Tanya’s leg, then back to meet with the removal people who will be here to give me a quote, meeting with the auctioneers who will give me a valuation on this place, and then a meeting with some staff who have concerns over the changes ….. meetings, meetings, meetings!!!!

OooH, and also somewhere in there, I want to pop in and have Windows 7 installed ……….

Enjoy your day ….

I can’t believe the news I got tonight, there is simply too much going wrong for people right now, and lots of it physical.

So many people in my life seem to be going through serious problems …. I’ve just spoken to Zilla in Italy, and she tells me that while she was lunging one of the horses her knee popped out, and although she managed to get it back in, now she is hobbling about with it strapped up and she’s planning on a trip up to Germany to have it looked at …. and possibly operated on.

I suggested she wait till I’m there to drive her around, but she doesn’t want to waste the winter months and recuperate in the spring, so she’ll probably go up next week to investigate this.

And, next Monday I will hear if Tanya, my youngest daughter will need bone graft on her leg after that horrid accident 3 months ago ………

And there are others … but this is really enough. I simply can’t believe that there is so much pain around …..

This month is nearly at an end, and I realise that it is ages since I wrote anything, and the last time I was in touch was when heading off for Europe and Jane’s funeral.

The date of the funeral was not set when I booked my flight, so I decided to go to Italy and spend some time with my daughter, Zilla. I was thinking that it would be good to have some quiet time to mourn and to be with family and able to talk about Jane and share remembrances. Well, I arrived in Malpensa, Milan around 11 o’clock, and was rushed back to the house for a quick shower, and time to drop my bag and repack my hand luggage with the bare essentials. Why? Because she had to be at a dressage show that afternoon at La Mandria. This is a spectacular park and was home to the Duke of Savoy. We were there for 2 nights, sleeping in the horsebox, but enjoying being together in between the demands of the show itself. Friday night was a night out of a Tuscan dream, as we joined several other friends at a superb restaurant for a long, lingering, sumptuous meal. Conversation around the table was rapid and loud, in Italian, English, German and even the odd smattering of French!

We got back late on Saturday and the next morning after riding some of her horses (she had 13 in the stables at that moment) took off to another show at Cameri. where Zilla had 2 of her students competing who needed some extra dressage lessons prior to moving on to an International Eventing show in France. When we got back, a friend of mine from way, way back … around 1980, descended on us from Zurich having heard I was around. The next day was spent exercising and schooling the horses, and I took lots of video of them to bring back for my other daughter here. Tanya is always keen to know what is happening with Zilla’s horses.

That evening, my friend from Switzerland and I escaped from the stables and joined Zilla’s husband for a cruise on the lake, which as you can see was suitably accompanied by a liberal glass (beaker) of wine. It may have been early October, but the weather was superb.

Back home we had a wonderful supper once Zilla got home.

Now, I start to loose track of time …… The next thing I remember, was being woken at 3 am on Wednesday morning, bundled into the car, and setting off for France and La Mondial du Lion the Eventing show where Zilla’s students had gone. The drive was spectacular, through Frejus tunnel ……

It was a long drive … all in all about 11 hours, with only a couple of stops to load up with coffee, and for a brief cat nap around 6 am. Always the darkest time of the day.

France was beautiful, and though we had only planned on staying 1 night, we changed our minds and stayed for 2 so as to see both the riders compete on the Friday morning early. They did very well, and came in 4th and 14th our of around 50 riders, so Z was very pleased. It is quite an honour, and mark of her professionalism, that she has been invited to train the Italian Cavalry for the dressage section of the Eventing!! Friday saw us heading home, though this time we took a short cut that took us off the motorway and brought us home a couple of hours earlier …. to sleep … to rest … to dream!

The next weekend was quiet … well as quiet as it ever is there!! Saturday and Sunday were taken up with working the horses, and on Sunday evening, some people came down from Germany to buy one of the Grand Prix horses and for their trainer ( a top international trainer to give Zilla a couple of lessons). They arrived late, and we took them to their hotel Villa Borghi. It is a stunning hotel and surprisingly cheap …. certainly far better value than we experienced later in England!! We gave them a bit of a sight seeing tour around the lakes and stopped for a glass of Prosecco (Italian champagne) and a few snacks.

It was passed 11 pm by the time we finished tall the riding and the lessons, and headed to a little Osteria (small village restaurant) for dinner! They brought us plate after plate of the most delicious starters, and by the time I’d had those, I was way passed having any interest in a main course. I’m not sure what time it was when we headed home, but I slept like a log, because the next day, Monday Zilla and I flew to Luton airport, for the drive through to the family at Sutton Bridge. The drive was horrid, drizzly, road works and diversions and seemed to take forever.

The house was full when we got there, so we went hunting for somewhere close to stay and checked into a little place on the riverside.  We were lucky with our room, and our host and hostess, not that we saw that much of them. We had a lovely evening together with the family, talking and reminiscing. Jane would have loved it. It was the first time that all of us had been together at the same time, and her presence was sorely missed.

People came to the funeral the next day at the crematorium from all over. I find it difficult to write of this time, but suffice it to say that the funeral directors provided wonderful ceremony and Jane was escorted on her way, by friends and family none of whom had a dry eye. I only wish that she could have been so honoured in her life. Why do we not say the things we think and feel to each other when we’re alive? I don’t think she had any idea what she meant to so many people.

I was sent this poem the other day, and though it was not included during the service I’m taking it for a mantra for myself from now on ….

IF I HAD MY LIFE TO LIVE OVER - by Erma Bombeck
(written after she found out she was dying from cancer).
I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren't there for the day.
I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage.
I would have talked less and listened more.
I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained, or the sofa faded.
I would have eaten the popcorn in the 'good' living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.
I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.
I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband.
I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.
I would have sat on the lawn with my grass stains.
I would have cried and laughed less while watching television and more while watching life.
I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn't show soil, or was guaranteed to last a lifetime.
Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I'd have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.
When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, 'Later. Now go get washed up for dinner.' There would have been more 'I love you's' More 'I'm sorry's.'
But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute.look at it and really see it . Live it and never give it back. STOP SWEATING THE SMALL STUFF!!!
Don't worry about who doesn't like you, who has more, or who's doing what
Instead, let's cherish the relationships we have with those who do love us.

The Service included much of her son, Danny’s music, a brief eulogy, a few words of farewell from me and some poems, after which people left for the Club. It was wonderful to see so many of her friends there with their dogs. Jane would have been in her element. I cannot thank enough those who came. Some I know travelled from as far away as Scotland to be there. What a mark of how much Jane meant to so many people. Thank you all.

Late that evening Zilla & I headed back to Luton as we had an early flight back to Italy where the next day she took off to another show, and I flew back to South Africa. South Africa is looking fantastic, It is spring here, and the Jacaranda trees are in full bloom. The beauty is so intense it is painful.

I got back here on Friday morning, and haven’t stopped since. We finally have an offer in on the Guesthouse, and I’m in the midst of packing and sorting and closing the deal. I’ll move the middle of November, and although I’ll continue to run this place until the new owners take over, or the middle of December when we close for a month, I’ll be commuting between here and my daughter Tanya’s, so life goes on ………….

It’s time to shut down my computer, lock my bags and head for the airport …. I’ve got a 14.30 hours of flying head of me which will take me to my daughters in Italy where I will stay for the weekend before going on to England and joining the rest of the family.

The funeral is planned for :

Kings Lynn Crematorium

on the 20th October at 2.30pm

Casual dress.

People are invited after the service to John Hogans home.

If you don't know the directions to the Hogans, please ring

him on 01945 588 751 for directions.

I will be back here on 23rd October ….. so with all that is ahead of me, I don’t know when I will get to a computer and be able to connect in again with you all. Meanwhile, take care of yourself, don’t let the autumn frosts nibble your toes, Big Hugs all round ….

Very sad indeed. She always encouraged and never made anyone feel stupid if they asked a question. A great loss to all. My heart goes out to her family.

Claire Evenden

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Tricia, please accept my deepest sympathies for the loss to you and the family of this very special lady. How I met Aunty Jane. One of the first canine email lists on the net was UKDogs, this was around 12 years ago, and of course Aunty Jane was one of the early members. Soon after this my husband started one of the first general UK Doggy websites (K9netuk) and Aunty Jane was one of our top contributors and helped with book reviews, etc. Jane always contributed to anything to do with dogs freely, and her help was greatly appreciated.

Although I had not met Jane when I was competing in Obedience, I met up with her a couple of years in the "Pedigree viewing box" at the Obedience rings at Crufts and we had some very long chats and fun togrether during that time.

When UKDogs folded, Jane started Obedience UK, WorkingTrialsUK and remained a faithful list member on UKShowDogs and my own Borderbility list, she remained a helper and administrator on these lists. From time we time we exchanged tales and help with admin, and chatted together.

Jane Ellen was one of the best, always there when you needed her, and sadly on my part sometimes forgotten when things were going smoothly, but Jane could always be relied upon if ever I shouted for help. She will be very sadly missed.

Of late, she was one of my most avid readers to stories of my African adventures into the desert or the bush, and I am so sorry that I am now unable to share with her my latest trip to Botswana, especially as while there I was thinking, I will make a special part of this just for Aunty Jane, I know especially she would have loved the stories of the wild dog pack. Sadly it was not to be, but I know Aunty Jane will always be there in thoughts and in spirit and I will always contribute a special moment in my mind to her memory.

Good night Aunty Jane, sleep well. Sue James

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I hoped Our Jane could win this battle, she was so strong in many ways. We never ever met, as we always missed each other at Crufts every time! However, I still considered her as a 'best friend'. My 'talks' with this great Lady on MSN will be sadly missed, for we would sit in the evenings putting the whole world to rights. We spoke mainly of dog related subjects, but we could range from Wars to social reform and any subject under the sun. Aunty Jane often managed to change my rather fixed views on things to more moderate ideas. Thanks for that Jane. My thought are with the family at this terrible time. Min

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Hello Tricia, just responding to your request for other memories of dear Jane.

Years ago I went to Jane's training ring at a show to work my Rottweiler and Jane was so pleased that someone with a breed other than a Collie came in to do a training round BUT after going round and round the ring with very little help from Jane when I stopped she said "That was lovely" only to realise she hadn't given me any stewarding because she was just glued to looking at my dog and admiring him ! I must add she did give me another go without having to pay!  That was Jane always ready to help and admire people and their dogs regardless of the standard they were working in the ring.  R.I.P. Jane

Rita Rottie.

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Jane was the 1st person to welcome me on Obedience Uk. She helped through Obedience Uk funding to enable Meg to have a 2nd batch of hydrotherapy and supported me through my tough times in Megs recovery.Meg going on to compete this year is a testament of Jane's love and support. Meg and I could not thank her enough!! I'd like to think of Jane sitting at rainbow bridge with all her lovely past dogs. Helen And Meg

I am so sorry to hear Jane has lost her battle, I never knew her but from day one of being part of this club she made you welcome, and my thought are with her family. Di Rhodes Bracken and Jake

This was the dreaded news we didn't want to hear.  So very sorry to hear Jane lost her fight.  My thoughts are with Dave and his family at this terribly sad time.  Rest in peace Jane. Love Andrea

The news was a real shock, and so unfair.  I remember Jane and Dave well from the 80’s, always a jovial couple.  In recent years Jane has done so much good campaigning for and running the Ob Uk fund, and has helped numerous people in times of need.  You didn’t deserve this Jane, I’m truly sorry.  Michelle Newman, xxx

A very very brave lady now at rest and without pain. God Bless you Jane. Jane & Dave were very very kind to me earlier in the year which is something I will always remember. Thank you Dave, my thoughts are with you and your family at this very sad time. Hils

I too was shocked to hear that Jane had lost her fight for life - her family must be in pieces. Jane and Dave did a lot for Exemption Shows, getting folk like me interested in competing but it wasn't until I joined Purley and Coulsdon, and we had a match against East Grinstead - they gave me the confidence to go into Open obedience with my dogs, when they judged the classes that night., I didn't even know what Open shows were all about - but there help in getting me started in a sport I now love and have made such wonderful friends, I can never thank them enough. My heart goes out to Dave, her family and friends, she will be missed - this site will not be the same without her. Denise Fry

Such a shock to hear this sad news.   Jane was a wonderful ambassador for obedience, and in recent years a true "saint" in her obedience UK fund work to help others.   She will be greatly missed by everyone.   My condolences go to Dave and the family.   Jenny Harknett

Poor Jane, she gave a brave and courageous fight. My thoughts are obviously with Dave & the family. Rest in Peace Jane. June Le Fevre x

How very sad, my thoughts are with Dave and the rest of her family, they must be devastated. Hugs Ronnie Stock

Dearest Jane, What a lovely lady. My thoughts are with your family at this time. Janet Oliver - Coriecollies 

Can't believe it. Jane was the first person on the list to give me advice as a newbie. I only knew Jane a little but from what little I knew, she has left a great deal behind her. Lindsey.

So Very Sad, thoughts are with all who loved her. Maisie

Just got back from the Hovawart Show and got this horrid news! I'm going to miss that wonderful lady. Min Inches

Few people in trials will have known 'Auntie Jane' but it was she who started this list and was/is still the list owner. That cannot be changed but the list will go on with Pauline Jackson and myself as administrators already. Jane Ellen was knowned in Obedience circles, was one of the first people to join UKDogs email list, which then became UKShowdogs, and she formed the ObedienceUK list before suggesting that Working Trials should have their own email forum, there was no other around at the time, so she started this and asked Pauline and I to help her with it. Jane was always ready to help any person or dog that needed help, always a kind and fair person and it is very sad that she had to suffer and spend the whole Summer in hospital. Auntie Jane will be sadly missed. Sue James

I heard this very sad news whilst I was at Thurrocks, such sad news, condolences to Dave and family, Jane was a lovely lady we will miss her. Thinking of you Dave
Love Sandra Cobbold

I can't believe Jane has gone. She was so special and so strong. I have so many memories of Jane because she was the one who bred my precious Jillie. If Jane did something she did it to the best of her ability. And she did a brilliant job when she bred a litter. You didn't just get a superbly socialised pup you got total commitment for that pup's life. When Jane met my Dylan she immediately decided he was the right mate for Cracker. It didn't matter to Jane that we were a long drive away and it was Christmas Eve. Her face when she realised the 2 had tied in a patch of nettles was a picture! But she stayed put quietly speaking to Cracker and those pups were conceived in a quiet no fuss manner. No wonder they turned out so well. Jane was always so proud of Jillie and her achievements and was totally
supportive. She drove all the way from London to the Forest of Dean to help me prepare for Crufts then drove me up the day before so we could watch the dogs and take in the atmosphere. Then on the day itself Jane was there to help me keep calm and give Jillie a workout. She was even thrilled that her shoes would be going round the Crufts arena because mine had got lost in transit. After that she retired to Jillie's bench and took charge of the hospitality. When I lost Jillie it was Jane who helped to get the message out even though she was upset herself. Jane was passionate about the world of Obedience but especially about her dogs. She is now free from pain and you can bet Cracker and Solo are delighted to see her again. And I know that Jane will take care of Jillie as well and still find time to organise Obedience UK Rainbow Bridge branch. Sleep well Jane. You touched a lot of lives and all of them for the better. Sincere condolences to Dave, Chris and the rest of the family. Barbara Colledge

So very saddened to hear about Jane. My thoughts and prayers are with Dave and the family. Rest in peace Jane. God bless. Carol Clarke

Away all weekend, just switched on the computer to hear that Jane has lost her fight. I can’t somehow take it all in. My prayers are with all of Jane’s family. Rest in peace Jane, a lovely lady who will be much missed. Madge Thompson.

I have only just got back on line. When I joined this group, Jane sent me a little message privately. It was much appreciated. We will all miss her, no other words, the right one hasn’t been invented. Joan and Faith.

Sad news to read of Jane. I only met her the once, when she helped with my dog Skipper. Jane helped save his life. It’s a year ago last month now. Jane did so much, with the obeduk fund, and was an ambassador to our sport. Our condolences to the family and God Bless. Rest in peace now Jane. Val Skipper.d new __._,_.___

Aunty Jane deserved her title of aunty, always willing to offer a warm smile, a friendly word and a pearl of wisdom. she will be missed by almost everybody in Obedience. Rebecca Hayter and the Tamerryes

Really sorry to hear this news.  Please, if you have any contact with her family, let then know that we are thinking of them. Roy and Shelagh Page

Oh B I am sorry you have had to pass on such dreadful news. Please pass on my thoughts to the family. Jane certainly will be missed. Please pass on all my thoughts and prayers to the family at this time which is not going to be easy. Jane meant so much to alot of us in so many very different ways and although I only met her a few times in later years we did have a smile along the way and a good natter. It is her dedication and freely given help along with her writings that will be sorely missed. Anne Westover

Sorry to hear about Jane. My condolences to Dave and the family. Sylvie Derrick

OMG so very very sorry to hear this news my thoughts are with Dave and the boys so very very sad the world will be a poorer place without Jane in it. Go meet all your friends at the bridge Jane xxx Chris Simpson xxx

Please give my condolences to Jane's family. Elaine Ratcliffe

My thoughts are with dave, chris, tricia and the rest of the family. A lovely lady who did so much for others. Bernice

Poor Jane, Dave and family; Jane battled so bravely, what a loss to all who knew her that she has now passed away. Jane was such a Character, always thinking of others before herself and she will be so very missed. My thoughts are with all her family at this dreadfully sad time. Shirley Budgen

Oh Bernice, that is so sad. Poor Jane. I went to her house a couple of times and spent a few hours putting names to people and dogs out of the boxes and boxes of photos. She loved all the writing and scribbling about this hobby of ours. The Ob world without someone like Jane? A hard act to follow. Life without Jane as a wife and Mother will be very hard for Dave and the Family and I hope we can give them strength by letting them know how much WE will miss her too. "Eddie" Andrew

oh dear...very bad news indeed. Rest in peace `Aunty` Jane. Sympathies to Dave and the family. Jackie Muir

We are so sorry to hear about Jane, she fought such a brave fight, but it was too long a battle. Derrick and Sheila Greer

Such sad news, rest in peace Jane, thinking of her family, god bless. Denise Robertson

I am so sorry to hear that. She battled for so long but it was not to be. She will be sorely missed by many. My sympathy to her family. Sheena Brown

Whenever we visited Jo's parents over Christmas or any other time, we always paid her a visit and went out for a meal with her and Dave. She made us feel part of the family and even all our dogs got on well together. There will be a big gap in our Christmas this year. Dave, Chris, Danny, Trisha & all her friends and family must be devastated. Colin & Joanne Le Cornu

OMG. For some reason, I thought it would never come to this. So very, very sorry. My sincere sympathy to Jane's family. Andrea Ferguson

Sympathies to Dave and family Jo Bramhall

We are so sorry to hear that Jane has passed away. What a fighter that lady was. Our sincere condolences to all her family and many friends. RIP Jane - out of pain at last. Maureen and Charles Allcock

The news we have all been dreading. It's so sad Jane has lost her battle and what a battle she's fought. My deepest sympathies to Dave, Chris, Tricia and the rest of her family. Jean Geddes.

such sad news . rest in peace jane Audrey Johnsonxx

Please pass on my sincere condolences onto Janes family. I really thought she was getting better. .this is such a shock, she was a really good friend. Sue Collins

So very sorry to hear this news. We all kept hoping and praying that Jane would win her long fight. My thoughts and condolences to all her family. She will certainly leave a big gap in so many ways. Pat O’Shea

So Sorry to hear that Jane had passed away. Our thoughts are with Dave and the family. About 9-10years ago my mum and i went to Jane and Dave's with our caravan and 11 dogs, she made us so welcome (had only spoken to her through the Obed Uk site before) cooked a lovely meal for us, felt like we had know her forever..by the time we left. Sleep well Jane !! Paula A Meacham

So sorry to hear this. My sympathies to her family. Sue Carvell

Oh my God, poor Jane. I'm so very sorry to hear this awful news first thing in the morning. She judged for us many times over the years, at Thurrock. We'll all miss her so much. Our sympathies to Dave and their family. Kath Westell

OMG I can't believe Jane has gone:-(( What a loss to the obedience world and just the world in general, very, very sad. Jane and Pat in one weekend. My thoughts are with all the families at this very sad time. Rose Barham

Jane and Dave were one of the very first obedience people I met at a show, she was so helpful, and helped so many over the many years that they were involved in obedience, she will be missed so much especially on this list, and am sure her memory will live on through obuk, My thoughts are with Dave and his family at this sad time, and Jane now reunited with all her lovely dogs at rainbow bridge. Vanessa Sultana

Would you please pass on my sympathy to Aunty Janes family. That news is such a shock - never thought this would happen. The Obedience Lists will not be the same with...out her at the helm. Carol Ward

I am so sad to hear this. Like Andrea I somehow though Aunty Jane would win this battle like she won so many others. A great lady who will be sadly missed, please convey my sympathy to Dave and her family. Jane Bowman

Jane loved being in the Countryside and being away from the Concrete Jungle of London she loved the freedom to walk her dogs in the fields round her and she came many times to us and our dog club only a half hour away.and after more than forty years friendship we will miss her so much Jean and John Hogan

What a terrible shock. I like others thought Jane would somehow pull through her illness. Jane and Dave were two of the first people I really got to know, when I first started in Obedience some 26yrs ago. RIP dear Jane, you are going to be so sorely missed. Condolences to Dave and the family. Wendy Harris

So very very sad. Jane was a good cyber friend to us all. On a personal level she was always interested in my work at the courts and gave me support when I was on a nasty cruelty case. Miss you. Lyn

How very sad, the news we'd almost come to expect going by the reports on her health, but a hard blow to take nevertheless, so cruel, she tried so hard, I've always kept up with her blogs and like others took delight in her 'musings' Obedeience UK will be a sad place without her, will we find anyone to fill her shoes with the same dedication? I hope so. Kind regards to Dave and Chris. Arlene Phillips

I have just read the sad new that Jane Ellen has died. She was one of the founding members of the knowledgeable Obed UK site where she championed the underdog and made everyone play fairly. She was a stalwart of the obedience scene in the past – I have been judged by her many times and she always appreciated keen happy dogs. I am not on obedience UK so can someone pass on my condolences. Ann DeRizzio

So sad to hear the news, Jane was very welcoming to my friend Jan and I when we visited Crufts in 2006 and then again to my daughter and I in 2007 a lovely lady who will be sadly missed. Our condolences to her family and many friends. Jill Houston WA

Please pass on my best wishes to all her family, it is so sad that she did not win this battle that she had fought for so long. Ann Trodd

So Sorry to hear that Jane has lost her fight. Such a brave lady and so well loved. Sincere condolences to Dave and Family. Helen - Toots Folly.

How very sad.I realy hoped she would pull through.My thoughts are with Dave & family at this sad time love Paula Ackary

I am so sorry to hear the sad news, like many others I really believed she would battle through, but it was not to be. RIP, Auntie Jane, sincere condolences to Dave and the family. Chris Gardner

I can’t believe the news that has hit me, and everyone else that knew her, tonight. Jane is THE person who supported my efforts to create ObedienceUK, and at the time I couldn’t work out why someone with so much background in obedience wanted to be involved in this online world that had only a tentative link with the real world of training and shows. But stick to it she did, and made sure that it WORKED. I’m going to miss her very, very much. Rest well Jane. Love to Dave, Chris and family, Les Perry

How very very sad. Poor Jane and poor Dave and her family after such a brave fight. I can’t quite believe it. I’m so sorry. Audrey Johnson

Can’t believe the news. So tragic, a wonderful lady with a great sense of fun and a great heart. I know her and Eileen will be having a great laugh up above. Thoughts to all her family, a very special lady. Kamal Fernandez.

How sad to hear about Jane. My thoughts are with Dave and the family. Lee Lampert

A lovely lady who gave me so much encouragement in the early days of my obedience career. I shall miss her sense of humour and valuable advice. My condolences to Dave and the family. Lesley Trenaman

I have just heard the awful news. We had a puppy that Jane bred – litter brother to the picture on Obeduk heading. She was always so interested in his progress and became a friend as she liked to visit him to get out of London and into the countryside where she felt at home. Dave, we are thinking of you at this terrible time and send our love. Jane and John, Pippa and Alex Wood.

Well said Les, even those not lucky enough to have known Jane 'in real life' knew her from this site, and knew her sense of humour, her loyalty and commitment to dogs and their humans.  She will be missed.  She is free of pain now, and reunited with friends who have gone to the Bridge before her.   Our thoughts must be with Dave and the family. Sincere sympathies to them all. Chris Knowles

Poor Jane, Dave and family; Jane battled so bravely, what a loss to all who knew her that she has now passed away. Jane was a larger than life character, and she will be so very missed. My thoughts are with all her family at this dreadfully sad time. Shirley Budgen

To sad to say anything. RIP Jane. Colin & Joanne Le Cornu

What sad news. Jane was such a helpful inspiration to those of us on the Newbies list. RIP Jane and condolences to Dave and family. Claire and Bosch

Have just come back from holiday to read this very sad news. I cannot believe that Jane won’t be at the other end of the computer anymore. I loved chatting to her via email and her advice was always most welcome. I was sad when we didn’t get to meet up at Crufts the last few years . This wonderful lady will be sorely missed by many of us. RIP Jane and thinking of Dave and family at this time. Susan, Ian and Gemma Henshaw.

So very saddened to hear this news. Please pass on our condolences to Dave and his family. Jane will be really missed by so many people. A truly lovely lady. Kim and Dave Innes.

So sorry to hear this news. Please pass on our thoughts and best wishes to her family. Faye Cook, Terry Sheldon and Family.

So very sorry. Thoughts and prayers are with Dave and the family. Carol Clack.

What dreadfully sad news to come in and find Jane has gone. She kept herself so busy with writing books and generously taking care of the obeduk fund and passing money onto those in unfortunate situations. She loved her dogs to bits. Poor Dave and all her family. Very sorry. Jenny Lunn

I am so very sorry to hear this. Jane was a lovely lady with a great sense of fun. Love and comforting thoughts to Dave and her family. Mandy Hopkins.

Just turned computer on and saw this dreadfully sad news. Jane was such a rock when Mick died and Dave if there is anything I can do for you please don’t hesitate. A wonderful lady with a wicked sense of humour who will be so sadly missed. Love and thoughts to Dave and Sleep Well Jane. Nadine Stubbington

A very sad day. RIP Jane. Amanda

I too would like to add my sincere sympathy to Dave and the family. Our friendship goes back a long, long way and it is terrible to have to say goodbye to old friends. Eileen Godbold

So very very sad. She was an inspiration to many and will be sorely missed. My heart goes out to her family at this desperately sad time. Sleep well Jane. Gayle, Bailey & Jura

Jane was a lovely lady who always had time for everyone. Special special thoughts to her family. We will miss you Jane. Rita Rottie.

Such a shock to log on this morning and hear this terrible news. I had no idea Jane was ill. Jane was one of the people who has always been there. We were friends in my beginner days 25 years ago. She will be sadly missed. Sharon Webley.

What dreadful news to log onto this morning. Sympathies to Dave, family and friends. RIP Jane. Sheilagh Hyde

I was so sad to read about Jane passing on. I remember her from 20 odd years ago when i first started competing and the laughs we used to have, especially at Upton Court Park. Also her unfailing help setting up practice rings etc. We used to chat on the phone several times and had great laughs. My sincere sympathy to Dave nad family. RIP Jane, you werea wonderful lady and greatly missed when you moved from the south. Another great who has now gone from the obedience world. I am so sorry. Chris Paris.

I’m sorry to read this news. Jane helped me into the sport – as I’m sure she did many other newbies as well with her brilliant Getting Started Guide to competing and her tireless support to us all on the Newbies list. I never met her in person but will remain grateful to her always. Kathy.

Dreadful news. My sympathy to Dave and family. Rest in peace Jan. Lou Jackson.

Oh No the news we were all dreading to hear. My thoughts and sincere condolences to Dave and all the family. Jane fought such a good and hard fight may she find peace now.
Rest in peace Jane. Love Andrea Little

Oh Bernice I'm devastated I never had the pleasure of meeting Jane or speaking to her, but had lots of contact via the Internet. She was such a lovely person & devoted to Dave, son & her dogs.
I cannot believe she has gone & send my love to Dave & her family. Dyane Jones

Although I never had a lot to do with Jane, I will remember her for her love of the dog world and her humour and the fact that it was her and Dave who pestered Sharon into getting a computer and joining OBUK. Condolences to Dave and family. Charlie Webley

My condolences to Jane’s family. Another great lady who contributed so much to the sport. Rest in peace. “KarEd”

I did not know Jane personally but was in contact with her when she wrote her book of Crufts Champions. I was so sad to hear of her passing and send my condolences to her family. She had a great sense of humour. Pauline Hage

So very sorry to hear of Jane’s passing. She was a great person. Sincere condolence. Christine and Peter Smeaton.

I am so very sorry to hear this awful news about poor Jane - why does it always happen to the good ones. I can remember her kindness with the OB UK fund when I lost my Darcy five years ago, she always put others before herself and although I never met her I spoke to her several times
on the phone. My heartful sympathies to Dave and all her family. God Bless you Jane and may you RIP and are now free from any pain and you can meet up again with your beloved four legged friend at Rainbow Bridge. Roz Valentine

Oh no how very sad. My sincere condolences to Dave and family. Jane will be greatly missed. Julie Holmes.

Such sad news of hear of Jane’s passing. A Truly lovely lady. My sympathy to Dave and the family. RIP Jane. June Stenning.

Death is not the end

Death can never be the end.

 

Death is the road.

Life is the traveller.

The Soul is the Guide

...

Our mind thinks of death.

Our heart thinks of life

Our soul thinks of Immortality.

- By: Sri Chinmoy

This evening, Jane died quietly with Chris at her side. The 5 months of agony are finally over for her. I miss you, Sis.

Yesterday, was an opportunity for a treat!! We’ve had our best month ever at the Guest House, and I was not only able to give all the staff a little “moolah” as a prezzie and thank you, but also took one of the senior staff members for a foot and shoulder massage …. and treated myself to an hour of reflexology.

There’s a new shop opened in my local Shopping Mall (for those of you who live in villages, this is a bit like a huge department store where all the departments are separate and individual businesses). This new shop is called The Foot Spa, and they simply offer foot massages to passing shoppers. Apparently it is a big thing in China and they have decided to introduce it here. Well, I found this place last week quite by chance, and now it is my favourite place to go for a special treat …… soothing music, hot water foot soak, creams and massage …. and they’ll do head, neck and shoulders too ….. A 20 minutes in their hands means a good (and I mean GOOD) night’s sleep ….

My friend M enjoyed hers so much that later last evening while watching a video together (Slumdog Millionaire) I heard her gently snoring …. !!! And she’s been so worried about a couple of health issues that she’d not slept for 3 nights!!

Reflexology is based on the ancient Chinese principle that everything (and I mean everything) in the body is reflected in the feet or hands, so you can assess and treat the various areas indirectly. I’ve had it before, and at worst it is a thorough foot massage that leaves the feet glowing and supple. In the process, I tend to squirm and wriggle a bit with the odd gasp out of pure pain!!! I was intrigued to see how it would be affected by the arthritis in my feet.  Would it help it, hinder the reflex, what??

Well, rather like childbirth, I can’t truly remember the pain now that I went through, but I feel fantastic today. The arthritis did not interfere with the whole process at all, and when I walked out of there, I felt freer of pain than I had for ages.  … and even got out of bed this morning with no pain in my feet or back!!

The Reflexology is such a cleanse of the whole system, that I’ve decided to drink lots and lots of water today and to stay away from the wine, coffee, etc.

On the way home, I noticed a book on Reflexology that, on browsing through, showed all sorts of ways it can be used for different complaints, including arthritis. So I’m going back for another couple of treatments this month, and I’ll see if it has any affect.

This made me think about my diet …. generally I eat very healthily, with loads of vegetables (many from the gardens here), I make a juice concoction every morning with carrots, ginger, apples and a variety of other things (sweet potato, beetroot, fennel, celery, lemon, oranges, greens,) depending on what is available and in season. This has become so popular now that all the ladies on my staff call in each morning for their glass!! However, maybe there is more I could do. The information is generally conflicting, and I’m very wary of fads!! However, I did find this general advice, and as it fits pretty much with what I already do, I decided to include it as My Diet!! Now, if I’m going to take this seriously, I do need a couple of changes …… am I up for dropping Tea?? I’ve already given up coffee (except on rare occasions when I’m out) (Quick, another swig of my almost cold tea now, it may be my last ….. ) And what about chocolate?? Years ago, I chose to limit my chocolate intake to Dark Chocolate, and just look at all the benefits that that has!!! Not least is in countering depression, and with all this focus on Not doing things I will definitely need that counter … so Chocolate stays in …..!!

So in the list of what to avoid …. avoid red meats, tomatoes, tea, coffee, dairy products, fried foods, chocolate, preservatives and additives. … my weaknesses are still dairy (I love cheese and thick Greek Yoghurt, and I;m sure I need those for calcium!), Red meat … well I already eat mostly fish and chicken, unless it is wild game meat which is the healthiest meat you can buy.  Fried foods are out, and I'm picky about preservatives and additives anyway, but Tomatoes, well there is so much recently on their benefits for fighting cancer, and heart problems … Oh dear, the more I look into this the more confusing it is …. so, I think I will go back to my Gran’s old adage (s) …. “a little of what you fancy does you good,” and  “everything in moderation” … including this diet thingy …..

Strangely, what they don’t seem to talk about is the impact on all our bodies of using microwaves to heat and cook food. I gave up mine years ago, and have never really known why, though reading Vreni Gurd MD’s article, it does confirm my suspicions ….. after all the goodness of organic foods (not to mention the expense) to then go and zap them in the microwave and kill every living element doesn’t make sense ……

Oh well, that’s enough from me this morning … I’m off to make another cup of T… get another glass of hot water!! Nah!! See ya.

  Here's one to set you on your way for a good weekend. Switch on those radiators, light the fire, open a bottle and sit around with friends!! Have a good time.

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I’ve spent many years stretching and contorting myself in Yoga and Pilates, and now I’ve just discovered that Research confirms that drinking gives you the same benefits as yoga.
Savasana
Position of total relaxation.  

Balasana
Position that brings the sensation of peace and calm. 

Setu Bandha Sarvangasana
This position calms the brain and heals tired legs.

Marjayasana
Position stimulates the midrift area and the spinal column. 

Halasana
Excelent for back pain and imsomnia. 

Dolphin
Excellent for the shoulder area, thorax, legs, and arms. 

Salambhasana
Great exercise to stimulate the lumbar area, legs, and arms.

Ananda Balasana
This position is great for massaging the  hip area.

Malasana
This position, for ankles and

Cheers!!

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1)
NUDITY
I was driving with my three young children one warm summer evening when a woman in the convertible ahead of us stood up and waved. She was stark naked! As I was reeling from the shock, I heard my 5-year-old shout from the back seat, 'Mom, that lady isn't wearing a seat belt!'
 
2)
OPINIONS
On the first day of school, a first-grader handed his teacher a note from his mother. The note read, 'The opinions expressed by this child are not necessarily those of his parents.'
 
3)
KETCHUP
A woman was trying hard to get the ketchup out of the jar. During her struggle the phone rang so she asked her 4-year-old daughter to answer the phone. 'Mommy can't come to the phone to talk to you right now. She's hitting the bottle.'
 
4) MORE NUDITY
  A little boy got lost at the YMCA and found himself in the women's locker room. When he was spotted, the room burst into shrieks, with ladies grabbing towels and running for cover. The little boy watched in amazement and then asked, 'What's the matter, haven't you ever seen a little boy before?'
 
5) POLICE # 1
While taking a routine vandalism report at an elementary school, I was interrupted by a little girl about 6 years old. Looking up and down at my uniform, she asked, 'Are you a cop? Yes,' I answered and continued writing the report. My mother said if I ever needed help I should ask the police. Is that right?' 'Yes, that's right,' I told
her. 'Well, then,' she said as she extended her foot toward me, 'would you please tie my shoe?'
 
  6) POLICE # 2
It was the end of the day when I parked my police van in front of the station. As I gathered my equipment, my K-9 partner, Jake, was barking, and I saw a little boy staring in at me. 'Is that a dog you got back there?' he asked.. 'It sure is,' I replied. Puzzled, the boy looked at me and then towards the back of the van. Finally he said, 'What'd he do?'
 
7)
ELDERLY
While working for an organization that delivers lunches to elderly shut-ins, I used to take my 4-year-old daughter on my afternoon rounds. She was unfailingly intrigued by the various appliances of old age, particularly the canes, walkers and wheelchairs. One day I found her staring at a pair of false teeth soaking in a glass. As I braced myself for the inevitable barrage of questions, she merely turned and whispered, 'The tooth fairy will never believe this!'
 
8)
DRESS-UP
A little girl was watching her parents dress for a party. When she saw her dad donning his tuxedo, she warned, 'Daddy, you shouldn't wear that suit.' 'And why not, darling?' 'You know that it always gives you a headache the next morning.'
 
9)
DEATH
While walking along the sidewalk in front of his church, our minister heard the intoning of a prayer that nearly made his collar wilt. Apparently, his 5-year-old son and his playmates had found a dead robin. Feeling that proper burial should be performed, they had secured a small box and cotton batting, then dug a hole and made ready for the disposal of the deceased. The minister's son was chosen to say the appropriate prayers and with sonorous dignity intoned his version of what he thought his father always said: 'Glory be unto the Father, and unto the Son, and into the hole he goes.' (I want this line used at my funeral!)   OK, get someone to explain this one to you!!
 
10)
SCHOOL
A little girl had just finished her first week of school. 'I'm just wasting my time,' she said to her mother. 'I can't read, I can't write, and they won't let me talk!'
 
11)
BIBLE
A little boy opened the big family Bible. He was fascinated as he fingered through the old pages. Suddenly, something fell out of the Bible.. He picked up the object and looked at it. What he saw was an old leaf that had been pressed in between the pages. 'Mama, look what I found,' the boy called out. 'What have you got there, dear?' With astonishment in the young boy's voice, he answered, 'I think it's Adam's underwear!'
 
PS If you’ve heard them before, I hope you enjoy the reminder ….

I woke up this morning wishing to share some of the magic of Africa with you, and thought of this amazing photographer. His Black and White photos of some of Africa’s wild animals capture the majesty, the beauty, and the poignancy of what is Africa.

http://www.nickbrandt.com/portfolio.cfm?nK=7648&nS=0&i=85418

I hoped to get a copy of the page on here, but I’ve forgotten what to do to get that image ….. oh well!! Enjoy ….